Tara Brach always nails it. She discusses how mindfulness can help us work through our self-criticism to begin to relate to ourselves with wisdom and compassion.
Interesting article that might give you some insight about why we do the things we do that aren't good for us.
This is important. We do change - but our personality characteristics are strong and most will be with us to a greater or lesser extent for the rest of our lives. What we can change is how we relate to our personality, and this can create great change in our behavior as well as in our sense of well-being. May we all love our quirky personalities!
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Carrboro, NC.